When People Go Hot or Cold

The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:

[If] someone reaches out to you with one hand, [so to speak], reach out to him with two, and beware of treating people coldly when there’s no call for that.

And [if] someone can’t stand you for no reason, don’t busy yourself trying to reconnect with him–he’s either got some excuse, so excuse him; or his feelings about [the] friendship have changed, [in which case], hold on to the good memories of him. Don’t burden him with a friendship he doesn’t want.

It’s been ascribed to Al-Shāfiʿī:

إِذا لَم يَكُن صَفوُ الوِدادِ طَبيعَةً … فَلا خَيرَ في وِدٍّ يَجيءُ تَكَلُّفا

If the sincerity of the love isn’t there without trying
There’s no good in a love that comes from effort, like lying

Source: @m_g_alomari. 12 Mar 21.