Keeping Things General
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:
From the etiquettes of dealing [with others] is that you don’t ask your brother about details in his life [regarding] issues he doesn’t like to bring up. General inquiries are enough for you.
Then if he elaborates in detail for you, that’s his affair; [but] if he answers you in a general [way], he’s drawing your attention to [that] lack of details, [so that you don’t ask about them].
An exception to that might be [when] you know someone likes [your asking him about details]—the testimonies of your relationship with him [over time] being proof of that.
Source: twitter.com/m_g_alomari. 8 Sep 21. 22:44 GMT+3.
من أدبيات التعامل:
أن لا تسأل أخاك عن تفاصيل في حياته، لأمور لا يحبُّ ذكرها.
يكفيك عموم السؤال، فإن فصّل لك، فذلك شأنه، وإن أجابك بالعموم نبهك إلى عدم التفصيل.
وقد يستثنى من ذلك من تعرف منه محبة ذلك، وتدل شواهد علاقتك به عليه.— د.محمد بن غالب العُمري (@m_g_alomari) September 8, 2021