The shaikh, Dr. ʿAbdullah Al-Bhukārī, may Allāh protect him, said:

The Difference Between Those Who Advise Sincerely and Those Who [Simply] Scold

Imām Ibn Al-Qayyim said:

From the differences between those who advise sincerely and those who [simply] scold is that a sincere adviser will not treat you like an enemy if you don’t accept his advice; he says: “My reward is with Allāh [now], whether you accept [my advice] or not”; and he asks of [Allāh] for you without your knowing; and he doesn’t talk about your faults and broadcast them among people.

Those who are [simply] scolding [you] are the opposite of that.

Al-Rūḥ, vol. 2, p. 717.

Source: @dr_albukhary. 16 May 21.