The shaikh, Dr. ʿAbdullah Al-Bhukārī, may Allāh protect him, said:
The Difference Between Those Who Advise Sincerely and Those Who [Simply] Scold
Imām Ibn Al-Qayyim said:
From the differences between those who advise sincerely and those who [simply] scold is that a sincere adviser will not treat you like an enemy if you don’t accept his advice; he says: “My reward is with Allāh [now], whether you accept [my advice] or not”; and he asks of [Allāh] for you without your knowing; and he doesn’t talk about your faults and broadcast them among people.
Those who are [simply] scolding [you] are the opposite of that.
Al-Rūḥ, vol. 2, p. 717.
Source: @dr_albukhary. 16 May 21.
[الفرقُ بين النّاصحِ والمؤنّب]
قال الإمامُ ابن القيّم:"مِنَ الفروق بين النّاصحِ والمؤنّبِ:
أنّ النّاصح لا يُعاديك إذا لم تقبل نصيحتَه،وقال:قد وقعَ أجري على الله،قَبِلْتَ أو لم تقبل،و يدعو لك بظهر الغيبِ،ولا يذكرُ عُيوبَكَ ويبُثُّها في النّاس.
والمؤنّبُ بضدِّ ذلكَ"
(الروح)(٢/ ٧١٧)— أ.د. عبدالله البخاري (@dr_albukhary) May 16, 2021