Putting One’s Wife in a Negative Light
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:
It’s [considered something] repulsive from a man that he mentions anything about his wife that presents her in an ugly light—especially if he wants to divorce her—whether [that thing] concerns [her] character or [her] physical appearance.
Men of noble character don’t do that.
If life with her were to become difficult, our Lord—All-Perfect is He—says:
الطَّلَاقُ مَرَّتَانِ ۖ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ ۗ
The [number of times] divorce [may be pronounced and then recalled by a man] is twice, and after [each time he recalls it, she’s] to be kept upon good treatment and terms or let go [upon a third pronouncement] while treating her well, [giving her what’s rightfully hers, and not speaking badly of her]. (Al-Baqarah, 229)
Source: twitter.com/m_g_alomari. 3 Jul 22. 20:35 GMT+3.
قبيح من الرجل أن يذكر زوجته بما يشينها -لا سيما إن أراد طلاقها-، سواء في خُلق أو خِلقة.
فلا يفعل ذلك كرماء الرجال.
إن تعسّرت الحياة بينهما؛ فربنا سبحانه يقول: {الطَّلَاقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ }.— د.محمد بن غالب العُمري (@m_g_alomari) July 3, 2022