Ending or Preventing Marital Disagreements

The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:

That there’s good speech between husband and wife—and words that are chosen [thoughtfully], that produce good results—is a major factor in removing many of the disagreements that take place between them—of preventing, in fact, many of the ones that are expected to place.

No one then holds back from that or keeps away from it or dislikes it other than someone who has little knowledge or awareness; a rough, brusque manner; or a weak way of considering things.

How beautiful is the speech of my Lord, be He exalted for His perfection, regarding the like of this:

وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ۚ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ

Good deeds aren’t the same as evil deeds; repay [the evil someone does to you] with good done [to him]—by that, the one with whom you had enmity will become just as if he were a close supporter of yours, concerned about you, feeling love for you. (Al-Fuṣṣilāt, 34)

Source: twitter.com/m_g_alomari. 3 May 24.