Be Good to Them Even When They’re Not Good to You

The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:

Be good to your relatives and loved ones even if they’re cold, harsh, or distant with you.

Don’t say: “If they have a need, they keep in touch with me, and if they don’t, they cut off from me.”

Keep in touch with them yourself, get the reward, and follow the sunnah, as in the ḥadīth:

One who [fully] keeps ties isn’t one who [just] reciprocates; rather, the one who [fully] keeps ties is the one who, when his relatives cut off from him [or mistreat] him, he [treats them well and] works to keep ties with them.¹

¹Narrated by Al-Bukhārī (tr.)

Source: 16 Mar 23.