Avoiding and Handling Conflict
The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:
You might be tested by one who wants you to be a party to every conflict; even among your relatives, you [might] find someone who will not excuse you during some matter of differences unless you are on his side against his adversary, or else [he’ll consider] you an adversary to him [as well].
Relieve yourself of worries from disputes, and stay away yourself from any conflicts. [But] if you were to be put to the test with an adversary, then be as [the poet] Al-Hudhalī said:
وَتَجَلُّدي لِلشامِتينَ أُريهِمُ
أَنّي لَرَيبِ الدَهرِ لا أَتَضَعضَعُMy toughness, to those who love to see me troubled, is what I will show–
That I will not, to the turns and trials of time, be bowing low.
Source: @m_g_alomari. 16 Feb 21.
قد تبتلى بمن يريدك أن تكون طرفا في كل صراع، حتى بين أقاربك تجد البعض لا يعذرك حال الخلاف إلا أن تكون بصفّه ضد خصمه وإلا فأنت خصم له.
أرح نفسك من هم الخصومات، وانأَ بنفسك عن الصراعات. وأما إن ابتُلِيت بخصم؛ فكن كما قال الهذلي:
وتجلُّدي للشامتين أُريهمُ
أني لرَيب الدهر لا أتضعضع— د.محمد بن غالب العُمري (@m_g_alomari) February 16, 2021